Christian marriage is a wonderful institution, but it can be difficult as well. Christian marriages can sometimes be worse than non-Christian marriages. That “wives submit and respect” message is a killer! To top it off, instead of making vows before a judge, we do it before God; therefore, we as believers, must work doubly hard to end up with an Outrageously Happy Christian marriage! As we know, Christians like everybody else can have a horrible marriage if it is not set on a good foundation. This is something that, unfortunately, we have experienced firsthand. We are Joel and Kathy Davisson.Even though I, Joel, was a pastor, I treated my wife in horrible ways. Not only was I both spiritually and mentally abusive, but at one point I even fell into adultery. The spiritual abuse was the worse. I would tell her, “I am the head of this home. You must submit to me! Your lack of submission is rebellion and rebellion is the same as witchcraft – so you are being a WITCH right now!” That really helped. Not. She would get more hurt and angry and fight back and I would say, “You have a Jezebel spirit!” I was convinced, but I was wrong!
By the time the adultery happened I figured things were over. I wrote a letter to Kathy, informing her that I was divorcing her and of how to handle matters with the church. Things never came to this however; thankfully I was confronted by a man who convinced me that I was the problem. It was a long and difficult road back to a happy marriage, but my wife was supportive and with me every step of the way. Thanks to her and God we are now in an outrageously happy Christian marriage and wonder of wonders, God has dropped us into the middle of a marriage ministry 14 years later! That ministry is now worldwide!
God’s intervention in our life wasn’t just to save our marriage, but to save Christian marriages all over the world. God lead us to write two books: The Man of Her Dreams/The Woman of His! and Book 2: Livin’ It And Lovin’ It! These books, alone, have created miracles in the lives of so many people, and every day we receive new testimonials which we place on our site. While many people have doubts that they can have an outrageously happy Christian marriage life, I can tell you firsthand that if God saved our marriage, he will do the same for you.
Many people find it hard to believe that our marriage survived mental, emotional and spiritual abuse and adultery. In fact, when these things occur, much of the time, Christian marriages will fall apart. They can be saved though, when a man is willing to become Christ like and truly offer his wife an opportunity to give her heart back to him. Besides the books, we offer various other programs that will help to save your marriage including a 24/7 marriage forum, marriage counseling type nationwide phone calls, even mentoring for men who have lost their wives and are trying to win her heart back. Finally, we offer an awesome 12 hour DVD set and Weekend Marriage Intensives that reach the worst of the worst marriages with change!