When I found Joel and Kathy, my wife had moved out for the 3rd time. This time she was done. We’d been married for over 20 years. Sorry wasn’t going to work anymore. A divorce was certain at that point.
I really wanted to fix and save my Marriage, so I decided to reach out. I figured I didn’t have much more to lose. It was the best decision I’ve made. And continue to make.
It was not easy admitting I was the one causing the problems. I thought I was a real man. What I really was, was misled. (“If my wife would only listen to me and do it my way. Why doesn’t she do more and appreciate me me me syndrome.”) Her input wasn’t important. I wasn’t a good listener, but “everyone had better listen to me” or there would be consequences.
I was passive-aggressive, narcissistic and completely oblivious to the damage my ego was doing to our relationship and marriage.
At first, the things that Joel and Kathy taught did not make sense to me. As I have applied the instructions though, as hard as it was at first, it absolutely is working. Jill went from being fed up, no more chances, moved out and done with me, to getting back together; happier than ever.
Thanks to you and your guidance, support, knowledge, and tools, we are happier than we have been in a long time. It worked. I am not divorced. In fact, my wife glows with happiness and beauty, which then overflows with how she now treats me.
Joel and Kathy’s guidance should have been a prerequisite for us before getting married (and should be a prerequisite for all engaged couples) for the absolute best chance at a great marriage from the start. It could save a lot of couples from unnecessary misery.
Thanks to Joel and Kathy, we are confident that we are on the Fast-track to a full marriage recovery.