If you are going through some tough times in your marriage, even if you are currently on the verge of divorce, there is still hope. We are Joel and Kathy Davisson and we have been providing Christian marriage support to couples just like you for years now. The results have been remarkable as the hundreds of testimonies on our website, in our book and on our marriage forum testify to. You don’t have to worry about us approaching you as a perfect couple who has never had problems. Our marriage almost ended up in divorce itself after years of abuse that culminated in adultery. Yes, our marriage was a mess but God taught us some radical concepts of marriage that have been sitting in plain view, in the Word of God for 2000 years! Most people have missed the keys though! We are going to teach you the marriage paradigms that enabled God to transform our marriage into the miracle that it is today.
The beginning point of marriage support can be a simple question: how would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1 to 10? How do you think your spouse would rate it? Most wives grade their marriage much lower than their husband! For example, a marriage that is rated a 7 to 9 by the husband is usually rated by his wife as a 5 to 7. Why? Women normally spend a lot more time feeling about their marriage than men do. A man can often compartmentalize their marriage issues, safely tucking them away where they can simply ignore them. Women in general simply cannot do this. A wife cannot just “get over” something without true apology and change from her husband. A woman cannot have healing in her heart if her husband does not offer closure.
In our marriages support groups and retreats, we encourage husbands to help their wives bring closure to these issues that haunt them by owning the issues that have caused the problems in the marriage in the first place. They can then begin a healing process that includes many specific “Joel and Kathy” principles, while still doing the basics, such as complimenting their wives, building her up and praising her. Basically, she needs to know that she is the most important thing in his life. It’s important that she know that you truly want to become a great husband. A smart husband will want to ask his wife to be brutally honest with you. Tell her that you want her to give it to you straight. Your wife has a “marriage manual” in her heart. If you don’t give her a “safe place” to share her heart, then you have no chance of becoming the man of her dreams!
You can have an outrageously happy marriage and with the aid of the marriage support groups that we have developed on our site, and forums, it can be achieved. The books that we wrote concerning marriage (The Man of Her Dreams/The Woman of His! and Volume 2: Livin’ it and Lovin’ it!) are the first place to begin your new journey together. The books are based on the 14 Paradigms of Marriage (maradigms) that saved our marriage, and we know can do the same for you. If your marriage has been a fairly miserable existence, there is hope! We are glad you found us and look forward to hearing from YOU!